"I have to submit this project tomorrow.
I have an assignment I have to complete tonight.
I have to go to a dinner with my partner.
I have to attend my child's performance.
I have to prepare for a meeting tomorrow.
I have to. I have to. I have to."
Guess what. You don't.
You don't "have" to do anything.
Sure there are consequences for not doing these things. There are also consequences for doing them too.
Which brings me to my point. Think about how differently you would apply yourself to the above activities if you actively chose to do them or decided that you are doing them because you want to do them rather than you "have" to do them.
Think about all the things that you are doing because you believe that
you "have" to do them. What would happen if you didn't do them?
Maybe the consequence would be that you would miss out on something
that you really want, such as your partner feeling that you really do
love him/her. Or maybe you would miss out on a promotion that you really
What if you were to switch from the perspective of "have to or else...", to "want to because..."?
When you understand why you are doing what you are doing in the moment
and how it will help you to achieve what you really want, it is amazing
how much happier you are right now when you fully apply yourself to
the activity whatever it may be. This also increases the chances that
you'll also be happier in the future.
This is one of the key success strategies when you plan and action personal success.
Try it out and let me know how you go. I'm confident that you will be positively surprised.